Pondering:
People will say to you, “Tell me what’s going on.” and then sit there for HOURS verbally bashing and tearing down the others within the conflict – in their minds they are defending you. Seldom do people say, “I can see that you are hurting. How can I help you? What can I do?” Some approach things this way, but they are the minority.
Seems it is 2nd nature to “pick sides” and jump on the “kick ’em when they’re down” wagon. How about folks band together to create a solution or find a way out of a terrible situation? So many say, “if you need anything, call me.” but when you do – they don’t answer the phone.
It’s almost like they are “famous by association”. “Did you hear what’s going on between blank & blank?” all the while thinking they are a part of the drama unfolding simply because they know the injured people personally. The initial reality shows – human behaviors in everyday life.
My suggestion is this – the next time a friend opens up to you about something, listen and then guide that conversation toward finding a solution INSTEAD of adding fuel to the fire and bashing others involved. There are always two sides to every story you hear and somewhere in the middle is the real truth. Remember that.
Just an observation in life.
PEACE
Pamtastic
