People want to feel whole, complete, loved.  We all search for these things on a daily basis whether or not we realize it.  Some search thru their work and thru the helping of others, while others search in things they know are not good for them such as drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex addictions, to name just a few.  We just want to belong – somewhere…anywhere.  In some online home businesses, people will jump from company to company in their search for completeness and belonging.

Each of us experiences dings, dents, scratches, and pings in our everyday lives.  There is no getting around that.  We flit from doing this to doing that, to answering this message and that one; never seeming to accomplish much, if anything thru the day.  All of this activity leaves us feeling like a hamster running on a wheel but never getting anywhere.  We feel deflated, depressed, unfulfilled.  So we search.  When we feel this way day in and day out over a long period of time, we begin to feel a sense of disconnect.  We act out, sometimes sabotaging ourselves and many times hurting the ones we care the most about.

There are websites out there promoting infidelity, gambling; all kinds of distractions designed to make us feel “fulfilled – but only momentarily.  Soon this “high” gets harder and harder to acquire and maintain so these “addictions” grow bigger and deeper.  We search harder and longer.  We want so desperately to belong.  When we think we’ve found where we belong in one or many of these areas, we become very attached to these “addictions”, thinking we cannot live our lives without them.  Before we know it, the addiction is all we think about.  It’s all we think we have to feel complete, to feel satisfied and whole.  These things can never really satisfy our core needs.

Each of us has an innate sense of right and wrong – all of us do.  It’s that quiet little voice within.  And when we go against the “right”, we feel guilty and a sense of wrongdoing deep inside.  For some who have mastered the ability to ignore their inner voice of direction, these feelings of guilt and wrongdoing eventually turn into feelings of entitlement – feeling the world owes them something and that they are validated in what they are doing even tho deep inside they know it is wrong.

We need to turn within ourselves, tuning in to that small quiet voice inside that directs us to the best way for us to go.  All journeys are different which is why this voice is within and is quiet.  It is a guide, a compass; it is not a dictator.  For so long we have ignored that personal inner voice; it’s so quiet that many don’t even hear it and many others simply disregard it completely.  But each time we ignore and don’t listen to that voice inside, we are consciously disregarding the ONE THING that WILL help lead us to feel whole, complete, and loved.

Take a good hard look at yourself; look within yourself.  Analyze your thoughts, your feelings, your recent and long term actions and behaviors.  Make a list.  Ask yourself the tough questions.  Are you creating the life of completeness and love for yourself and others that you desire?  If not so much, then you need to ask yourself why.  Then take the necessary steps to change the direction of your path from that of living broken and bruised to living whole and complete.  Realize tho that these are tough questions and the process is very eye-opening and challenging.  You may actually feel worse about yourself before you feel better.  That is often the case when we embark on a journey to enlightenment and self-development or self-improvement.  We never want to admit that we are in the wrong.  But we cannot lie to ourselves…we can lie and cheat others, but not ourselves.  That has something to do with our instincts of survival and self-preservation within our DNA.

For some people this process may be too intense to do alone.  If this is the case for you, and you know yourself better than anyone on the planet, then seek the advice, counsel, and guidance of someone you trust completely.  This person doesn’t have to be a “professional”.  They could simply be a dear friend.  The point is to take action.  The sooner you get answers, the sooner you will be on your way to true happiness; living a life that is more complete, more whole, feeling more loved by those around you – and even by yourself.

Self-loathing and self-avoiding are not fun things to experience and live with.  Change that.  You deserve more.  you deserve better.  You deserve to feel love.

PEACE to you all.

Pamtastic

A resource on the subject of breaking addictions:http://www.freedomyou.com/what_is_addiction_freedomyou.aspx