We all want everyone to enroll in our company and on our team. Hello???? This is our ultimate goal in the network marketing.
Be honest with yourself and with others, tho. When someone has a specific question – that has NOTHING to do with adding another business to their universe – DO NOT offer to help them with this particular situation when you actually have an agenda – to sell your company. If that is your only goal, you won’t go very far – in my opinion. Quite the opposite. You will most likely do more damage than good, resulting in less opportunity for future dealings…but, hey, I could be wrong.
Know this: I did not just fall off the turnip truck yesterday. I’ve been around the block, maybe not as many times as some others but I am a quick study; I figure most things out rather quickly. I may struggle with techy things, but I am a pretty smart cookie.
Do not BS me. And stop BS’g others. More importantly, stop BS’g yourself. If your “mentors” tell you to lead the conversation, guiding the people to your opportunity – no matter what…then they are not the best mentors out there. Yes, you want to find the person’s pain to determine if you have the solution to that pain. But when the request for some education or clarification on something out in the Universe is clear, DO NOT follow this rule from your mentors. It doesn’t apply and it makes you look like a self-involved kook.
If someone asks a question of the UNIVERSE, not specifically of you, and you offer to help them, do not assume that they are in the market to buy your program, especially when they have made it clear that they are NOT interested. Before you go into your solution-seeking pitch, make sure people are looking for what you are “selling”…make sure they are “in the market” to buy something. Don’t waste your time or theirs. If they are not in the market for more biz opps and are clear about that, do NOT be misguided into thinking that if you tell them more about your gig and show them this or that, then they will magically change their mind and buy. Some might, I guess, but… well, you might get lucky. But by & large people know what they want and need. Especially people who didn’t just fall off the turnip truck.
I admit and am sorry to say that I fell for this today. I suspected it from the start of the call – remember, I’ve been around the block. Knowing that I can be overly cautious at times, I told myself to answer the questions – maybe the person was gathering info to be better able to answer my question from the night before about the differences between a Facebook profile wall and a Facebook fan-page. So, not wanting to jump to conclusions, I answered the questions – albeit hesitantly, yet honestly. I was hesitant to answer them because the questions were broad and vague. They seemed to be round-about questions used to “lead me” to discuss or be open to the opportunity that I would soon be hearing about. I could tell they were but to see where this was going and that maybe I was wrong in my instincts, I answered. By the third question I KNEW – my gut never lies to me and yours never lies to you. I was very disappointed in myself and in the person who did this. However, I have not mastered the art of ending a conversation abruptly. I will get better at that, for sure.
To make matters worse, I tend to give the benefit of the doubt to everyone, doing so in this case as well telling myself that still I might be jumping to conclusions and I watch some of the video the person sent to me.
- I was told it was a 40 minute video…it was over an HOUR.
- About 30+ minutes into the video (skipping the hoopla and kudos in the first 15 or so of it) I knew for SURE that my initial instincts were correct.
Then I send a message stating my thoughts and asking for clarification. My instincts gnawing at me, now KNOWING without a shadow of a doubt that my initial gut instincts were spot on. My advise: Do NOT reply trying to spin it that you were under the impression was that I was interested in additional income. I will call you out. I will show you proof that you are spinning things; quite frankly BS’g me and yourself. By doing all of the above things, you have essentially damaged a potentially good friendship/connection for future business dealings, because “no” generally means “not now” but lying to me, misleading me, pretending to be helpful creates a sense of mistrust and mistrust is extremely difficult to overcome. Just sayin’.
I do not do well with BS; call me crazy, but I just don’t. Maybe the saying, “good guys finish last” is or can be true….but the fact is that we DO finish ANNNND we finish while keeping our integrity intact and secure.
So, blessings I send to you. I wish everyone success in what they have chosen for them, provided that it AND they do not harm others.
BS’g people is a type of “harm”. So stop it!
PEACE
PAMtastic, out.
