Sayings like this one are all around us: “Be positive no matter what”, “Never let them see you cry”. That resembles the “fake it till you make it” philosophy to me. And altho it’s good advice in GENERAL, it is not a reality.
I believe in honesty & transparency. The people I work with, my team, my friends…they all know that I am a person. I have ups & downs just like anyone else on the planet. I cannot hide that. I cannot hide me. I do NOT have a poker face. So I will share some of these things in my life…the good, the bad, and sometimes – the ugly.
Anyhow, I don’t wallow in the negatives. I don’t harp on them. I experience them, I sometimes share them, and I move forward.
I don’t think it is a bad thing to show people that you are human – just like them. In fact, I feel that it makes you a better leader of sorts because you don’t rely on all the positive hype stuff every single day. If you only share this “holier than thou” persona, then your audience will not feel connected to you. That will translate into a dis-connect and possibly a dis-trust. You MUST be transparent with others.
I am not saying to share ALL negative things in your world with the universe, but I AM saying to SHARE WHO YOU ARE – sometimes that means letting people in a little deeper so they can experience the REAL YOU. Don’t be afraid to let people in a little bit.
PEACE
late March 2015 – (Facebook status explaining WHY I was crying in this pic)
