Why do men (women, too) lie and deceive? Why not be truthful & authentic?
Deceit only delays the inevitable and causes undue harm. Why fake stuff, especially matters of the heart or things involving your kids? Tell the damned truth!
One the other hand, if you feel things dying – discuss it, don’t hide from it. Stop living in fear. You will be OK. It might be difficult for awhile but you’ll be OK!
And once you decide to go separate ways, STOP the BS. Be truthful and wrap it up as quickly as possible.
Don’t drag it out and go out of your way to hurt each other. Remember, you once loved one another. You created children together (if you have children together). Be fair and equitable. Punishing your “ex” hurts the children. They pay attention to the situation more than you give them credit for. Be wise. If you hurt the other parent, you will damage your relationship with your children. Be wise. When children are involved – don’t care their age – break-ups have a trickle down effect. Everyone loses something.
If you can’t work it out, fine – move along but don’t add more damage. Make it clean and fair for all involved.
