I am a writer, an author, an encourager, a painter, a poet, an inspirer, a Mother, a daughter, a great listener, a friend, a sister, and probably more. I am an overall good person to all whom I meet. Unfortunately for some reason, deep inside I don’t always feel that I am good enough in any of these roles; it’s as if I feel that someone else does a better job. I read other people’s Facebook statuses and see their pictures or I observe other women in certain situations, and oftentimes I find myself feeling inferior. You’re familiar with these thoughts: Their children are sweeter, their homes are cleaner and prettier and gorgeously decorated, their husbands are more loving, their makeup is flawless, their weight is perfect, they have the best fashion sense. The list goes on and on and on. It is self-torture of the mind at the very least, but it is also killing the spirit.
WHY do we constantly compare ourselves to others? Sure, there are people who are better AND worse at some things we do. No one is perfect. We all KNOW this to be true, yet we still do this to ourselves. Why can’t we all love ourselves enough and tell ourselves that we are the best for OUR situations? I get so mad at myself when I do this. It’s an internal battle waged between me, myself, and I. You’ve battled it yourself; we all have. This is self-sabotage; even if it’s on a subconscious level. Maybe because this self-sabotage, self-doubt is subconscious it makes it even harder to correct because it’s difficult to quiet the subconscious mind. It is, after all, the subconscious. You can’t just go into a 30-minute hypnotic meditation at the drop of a dime, now can you?
I believe that’s why self-talk is so important. If we addressed all of these areas that we subconsciously believe we are lacking in, then maybe in time with consistency, we can “overwrite” the bad self-talk habit and create new positive self-talk habits where we are more loving and accepting of ourselves; embracing who we are and realizing and admitting that we are THE BEST for our situations. Why not? We encourage and uplift everyone else, don’t we? Why not ourselves?
It’s time we started loving ourselves. That doesn’t mean becoming narcissistic or selfish in nasty, off-putting ways. It means putting ourselves on the priority list. On the worthy list. On the encourageable list. On the loveable list. We need to do this before any meaningful change can happen within our own lives. Don’t you agree?
We keep doing these things for others and we then witness great things happening for them. Why not do this same thing for ourselves? Wouldn’t we also begin to witness great things happening for us? Of course, we would!
Make a commitment to yourself.
1 – Write down the things you feel that you are ‘not good enough’ at. Make a list. It doesn’t matter how long or short the list is. It’s YOUR list. You don’t have to share it with anyone. This is FOR YOU!
2 – Then, write a positive statement for each item on the list reinforcing how good and worthy you are in that area; a kind of affirmation, if you will.
3 – Then say these positive affirmations about yourself aloud to yourself EVERYDAY for at least two weeks…I’d go for an entire month for the best possible benefits. You owe it to yourself to succeed at this.
I believe major mindset changes will occur if you do this consistently. Your behaviors will change. You will become lighter in spirit because you will be loving yourself, nurturing yourself, encouraging yourself. Who knows, you may even become the next winner in the area of your dreams.
Good luck. Tell me how it works for you. I’d love to hear your stories.
Pamtastic
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