I recently saw an article stating 6 ways to stop your on-again/off again relationship. I didn’t read it. LOL It did prompt this:
I will offer you one way to put an end to your on-again/off-again relationship. Just end it. Be done. Be polite. Be kind. Know that at one time you loved this person, but for whatever reason that time has ended. Be sad. Be happy. Feel whatever it is that you feel, but END IT. Say goodbye and close the door. You will experience sad days, days of mourning. For some, those days can drag on, too. I know – that’s been my life.
Addendum:
If you have children together, continue being kind to one another. Wish each other the best of all happinesses and MOVE ON. You have children to raise. Do not put your garbage onto them. They are the best of each of you. Recognize that in them and that they are their own individual selves; they are not your Ex. It’s not their fault that y’all broke up. Work it out in your own head. Go to therapy. Consult with a friend. Do whatever you have to do to move forward and continue raising healthy children – this means emotionally, too.
Emotional abuse leaves no physical scars, which is why there are very little resources for folks dealing with it. It boils down to he said – she said. In reality, there is his side, her side, and the truth is somewhere between both perceptions. It’s all perception. You feel this while he feels that. Common. Normal. We all have our own filters for life and rarely are they identical to another person’s filter.
So, back to my short topic…. one way to end the on-again/off-again relationship is to simply CLOSE THE DOOR.
